We recently went to SamsClub and stocked up with a ton of things for the holidays cooking season. Our last item on the shopping list was a book of stamps. We paid for them and things just kind of stalled out at that point. We were standing and waiting around and had no clue what was next and finally asked where our stamps were and she said I do not have any….. (dead air space) Finally she said she needed to get some and had to find her supervisor (nothing like not setting your customer’s expectations).
As that person came by us the cashier asked for a book of stamps and over her shoulder the supervisor yelled moving quickly away from us “okay – one minute I am busy right now”. Our cashier than divorced herself of our needs and we proceeded to wait, and wait, and yes wait even more not knowing anything… We finally asked again who was getting our stamps. She said “I told her you needed them I am not sure where she is with them” (again – dead air space). She seems to not even know who she spoke with or at least that was our impression. To us we were done checking out so she had no reason to help us – right?
Finally we asked again who did she speak with and how we could simply get our stamps. Another associate came by and our cashier got her attention and that person got on the walkie-talkie and called the supervisor and told her we needed our stamps. Some exchange happened and we were again just standing around waiting and wondering. The 3rd associate also left us hanging because she “had something to do” – must have been really important to do other that help a bad ending get better. Finally I told our cashier if we could not get some help from someone I would be happy to return our purchased of close to $200 dollars and leave who would I need to talk to about this. She did not take the warning sign that we were done with this issue and she should have alerted other management.
The supervisor finally showed up and I asked her when we would be able to get our stamps or should we simply return our items and leave? Yes, at this point I was frustrated I know but we had been waiting for nearly 15 minutes in the middle of everyone’s way to get 1 thing and we wanted to leave as we could simply not get our book of stamps we paid for. She said in a sarcastic tone “I am sorry but I am helping other people right now” and I said – you do not mean that and who can we see to get help if you are busy? She said again “I am sorry but I am very busy with other people” (Sarcastic tone completely thru the entire exchange).
She stopped after that and got our stamps and proceeded to tell me how busy she was and was sorry again (yes even more sarcasms in her tone than last time) and seemed determined to make me believe her versus simply trying to end our experience as best as she could. She appeared to have no concept of a sincere apology with empathy – I told her I did not believe she handled this well and told her “thank you for our stamps”. I was ready to write this event off as a busy day at SamsClub and simply get over it and she decided that was not going to happen so she began to follow me toward the door and started to argue with me.
Now no matter what had happened up to this point and the fact that things sometimes just do not go right and I was going to leave it alone but she wanted to come after me and argue her point to maybe convince me that her terrible attempts at an apology were truly serious. I finally turned around and told her the last thing you want to do with this issue and me is to follow me out and try to argue and convince me of your way – you are wrong and please do not follow us out – you need to stop trying and give up. Whatever she said after that I tuned out but she raised her voice even more and in front of a crowd of customers continued talking to my back. Two customer who at that point did not know what was going on actually made comments on how rude she was. (Now you have added even more trouble to your situation with more customers seeing you bad display of customer service).
A sincere apology with empathy is one of the core skills you must have if you are going to deal with customers and the situations that can create bad experiences. Even if the final process is not the best desired outcome “chasing” the customer down to prove your point will never ever become a win for you. When you raise your voice around others to “prove your point” you now elevate the issue to a new height and expose it to others and create more negative feelings and last impressions.
Accept responsibility for the situation and simply express an apology and most of them time this will go a long way to healing the problem. Decided to give it with a sarcastic tone and all your good will is gone and you cannot get it back. You have lost the battle, the war, and the small ground you could have saved at that point.
A sincere and complete apology needs to done quickly after the event and serves to minimize any suffering as well as hopefully salvage the relationship for the future. It does not excuse the problem simply allows you to be a part of the solution. Mending the relation and trying to move past it must be the priority. Remember – Empathy is what makes us able to connect with our customer.